Young Wife's Tales

I recently heard about a book called "Bad Mother." The author talks about the modern parenting culture where, if a mom doesn't give up her entire identity in favor of being "so-and-so's mom," then she is labeled a bad mom. With all the nannying and babysitting I have done, I have definitely witnessed this parenting culture.

Apparently the author of this book "Bad Mother" was on Oprah, and while there she told the audience that she loves her husband more than she loves her kids. And apparently the audience erupted in "boos" and one woman even lunged at her screaming "Let me at her!!"

This has got me to thinking about how Satan has corrupted what a family is supposed to be like. Your spouse should always be your #1! The "modern parenting culture" has flip-flopped that, which shouldn't be surprising as Satan always flip-flops God's true intentions. Not only do people put their kids before their marriages nowadays, but they label those who don't "bad mothers."

Well, I guess I'm going to be a "bad mother." My marriage is my #1 priority and that won't change when we have kids. Of course, their physical needs will come first but when it comes to relationships, J and I will always be each other's #1. We CHOSE to love each other (you don't choose your kids), and there is something incredibly special about that.

My child will not be the "love of my life" as I have heard people say. My world will not revolve around my kids. My husband is my life, and I don't believe God would will that to change just because we reproduce.

I don't know if I will love my husband MORE than my kids. I don't think you can necessarily quantify love, since the types of love are so different. But I know that I won't love my kids more than him. And it's a good thing this is a private blog or else I would probably be sterilized by that madwoman who was in the audience at Oprah.....